FANTASY #2: I CAN ACHIEVE PERFECTION
I am a recovering perfectionist. For most of my life I have strived to do it all and do it all perfectly. I would take pride in my perfection and if it wasn’t perfect then it wasn’t worth doing. That made for many long days and lots of stress trying to achieve that perfection. It also caused me to walk away from amazing opportunities because I did not want to pursue it if there was a possibility that the outcome would not be perfection.
Many of us do that with our fitness and health goals. We set this crazy goal like I will lose fifty pounds in a month. Then we give ourselves all of the things to do to get there like:
- I will workout five days a week for ninety minutes.
- I will only eat clean food that I make at home.
- I will get up at 5 a.m. every morning.
This may work for a couple of days or even a couple of weeks. But there comes a point when we will miss a workout, or have to eat out for a family function or we sleep through our alarm. If you are a perfectionist you will throw up your hands and say, “I knew it, I couldn’t stick to a plan, this always happens I am going to order a pizza and binge watch Scandal.”
This is self-sabotage. Expecting perfection is fantasy. We are throwing out the baby with the bath water. By setting these unrealistic expectations we are just setting ourselves up to fail. By failing we are confirming all the negative things we thought about ourselves from the beginning. How do we change this mindset?
TOOL #2: START WITH GRACE
John 1:16 says: And from his fullness we have all received, grace upon grace. God loves us and forgives us no matter what we do. Why do we find it so hard to give ourselves even a little forgiveness?
When you miss a workout don’t quit the gym or personal training. There is grace and you can start again tomorrow. When you eat something that is not supportive of your goals instead of binging the rest of the day give yourself grace and get back on track with the next meal.
The grace that he gives us is a blessing. It is a gift! If you rest in it you will be able to overcome the sabotage of perfection.
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